I suppose that I am not an overly romantic person, in general. I can appreciate a good love story, I adore actually being in love, but, as referred to in my Valentine's Day post, ridiculous displays of affection like that don't sweep me off my feet.
Earlier this week a friend of mine enlightened me to a blog that a new friend of her's husband had created. The premise of his blog is to document "one year of tiny displays of affection that he will exhibit everyday" in order to let his wife know how much he adores her. When I first logged onto this blog, I thought it was going to end up being quite sweet and perhaps lure me over to the romantic side. Wrong. This blog practically threw me into a diabetic coma after reading only the first page of posts. For example, on Thursday, April 2, said husband took a Sharpie (um? hello? permanent ink? NOT for ingestion!) and wrote on the bottom of his wife's coffee cup: "I'm your coffee and you're my sugar, and together we're good." Now, I'm going to say that I ever finished a cup of coffee, only to find a personal message inscribed at the bottom of my cup in permanent marker, I believe that would be impetus enough for me to make a trip to Starbucks everyday for the rest of my coffee drinking career, despite the monetary output that requires.
The blog goes on to document how the husband has done things like carve "I Love You" into their decorative soap in the bathroom, written "I love you forever" on the interior lining of their shower curtain, and even spelled out "Be Mine Forever" with some sort of red substance on the bedside table in their room.
At the sake of sounding like a completely callous and cold hearted bitch, I'm just going to state: what it sounds like to me is he is singlehandedly destroying their home and items in it by attempting to think of creative ways to tell his wife he loves her everyday. Does she really need all that? Does a sweet kiss, or a warm hug, or just a lingering touch, plus a few sweet words, not do the same trick?
Sure, they're just material items, but in this economic recession it seems quite fiscally irresponsible to have to replace your soaps, bedside furniture, shower curtains, etc. every few months because your husband keeps scribbling his thoughts on them. Paper's cheap - why not try that?!
I applaud this man for coming up with the idea to love and honor is wife uniquely everyday. In a world overrun with divorce and infidelity, this probably is somewhat of an anomale. However, this woman has far more patience than I do in not feeling completely suffocated in this project, and for putting up with his destruction of household items. But maybe I'm just insensitive and jaded...
