I love blogging; mostly because if you know me, you know that I like to talk. A LOT. So, in an effort to preserve those around me's ears, I turn to blogging to write down my thoughts, opinions, etc. However, I do not open my blog up to comments because, (and no offense) I don't really care what you think about what I've said. Further, if I write an overly self-indulgent post, it is simply because that is what is on my mind at the time, not because I'm looking for you to fill my comment section up with self-aggrandizing statements and platitudes of re-assurance. That shit annoys me. If I need to hear those things I will actually pick up the phone to call Megan or Alison or Cate or Lauren or someone who gives a damn and can genuinely help me through an issue.
All that being said, I read a blog of a woman I don't even know, but have learned (through her overly-TMI posts) nearly ever single emotion she feels at every single minute of every single day. Granted, she's got a lot of crap going on in her life, of which I will not bore you with details, but what annoys me more than her grossly indulgent posts are the comments people leave. "You are such a great person, you can get through this! Don't let anyone bring you down! You are the smartest person I know! Your shit smells like roses!" Really?! Do you honestly want all of your re-assurance and hand-holding to come in the form of blog posts?
Which brings me to my next point: is re-assurance and fortitude of strangers really sufficient? If I opened up my blog to comments, and people I only knew through blog world starting telling me "things are going to be better"; "sure, you'll be a great lawyer, etc.; I'm not altogether sure that would actually make me feel better about my situation. Maybe I'm de-sensitized, but really I think it's more that I value and thrive on about 5 people in my life's strength. I turn to them in need, and they know they can turn to me. I don't need any further assurance than what they have to give because I know they are being completely honest with me. If I'm being a baby, undoubtedly one (or more) of them will let me know. If I need a pick-me-up, they'll be there. Yes, my blog is self-indulgent. That's pretty much the premise of a blog. But, I do not implore people to comment on my situation. I am certainly not denigrating anyone for using their blog as a vessel of confidence, it is just not the vessel I choose. Just thought you should know. No comments, please.
